The Beast

I don't think that I was clear in my first post. The girl I was talking to was the girl I'm interested in's friend. Thus, I had to dance with and talk to this girl. And I wanted to get rid of her and get through the night because I felt a bad hookup coming. I have no attraction to her. However... Tonight was a bit different. Went to the bar first and had several good opportunities to screw up, but I held my own and eased into situations with her. Had a lot of time to talk and get to know her. Also bought her a few drinks which I doubt she was expecting and felt like she owed me something. Not at all, the night was great. Got to dance with her the whole night and had her and her friend (and the friend's hookup) over for a few more birthday shots (her friends birthday). It was a good night and she and I might hang out next weekend watching How I Met Your Mother and getting dinner.

QUOTE (Flash Tizzle @ Feb 27, 2010 -> 07:42 PM) Beastly, if this girl liked you she wouldn't have pushed you off onto a friend. Additionally, as Kyle suggested, when you begin discussing priorities in life (even including, however innocent it may be, the phrase "wanted to have a family") it may be too much, too quick. I can understand the perception of bars as a terrible place to meet quality women, but as someone with vast experience in drinking (and creeping), it's all about location. Don't limit yourself to certain areas. People our age, that's what they do on weekends. It doesn't define them. She gets one more chance this evening. To be honest, I don't know what else I'd like to say to this girl. I try and see what she's interested in and I got no information that would lead to any sort of attraction whatsoever. I think that might be why I haven't enjoyed college...I have never found the kids who I gel well with, and its kind of sad. I feel sometimes like I had better relationships in high school and that the lifelong friends that I've had are those from high school, as sad as that may be. The whole family thing was just brought up as a reason of why I couldn't be a reporter. I would much rather hang with a small group of friends, people that I know, that I'm comfortable with, hanging out and enjoying a movie or something than just throw money at alcohol that I honestly don't like. I think this is why I felt the void when I had the breakup, all of what I enjoyed doing got thrown out the window. I know those days will come back again, but the question is when? I'll try another bar if that is what you mean by location. I never said it defines people. I just think I'll have more fun meeting people in something I'm interested in like exercise over a game that I might have to play on the weekends. P.S. Spoke to a fireman/paramedic today and I'm shadowing him as well as a high school guidance counselor over break to see what they do. Sounds bad ass.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 27, 2010 -> 04:59 PM) Man, you are way too far ahead of yourself. "Plans" and "Priorities" shouldnt even be entering your mind during the first meet-up(not even a date!) with a girl. This was with her friend that I was trying to get rid of because I honestly wasn't having fun being left alone this this girl. She probably was into me and I'm totally not into her.

Another disaster. Went up to the bar/club again and met up with the girl and her friend. Apparently the guy that was driving the girl I'm semi-interested in has a little something going with this girl, or just rushed up to the occasion to dance with the girl. So, I got passed off to the friend and danced with the friend just to try and stay in with the other for the next night at the club, just in case things changed. Luckily, I was able to go get her a drink and sit down asking anything I possibly could to not have to dance with this friend. This girl and I got to talking about life after school. Evidently she doesn't have a plan and just wants to see what comes of her career in nursing and wants to travel. None of these girls that I have met seem to have plans like mine (moving back to the suburbs and working in the city before living on my own), so I'm willing to bet that I'll be back in the city upon graduation. She didn't seem to understand where I was coming from with "quitting" the media industry but I just said that I wanted to have a family (the job was wayyy too stressful for me) and that I didn't want to have to be in a remote area for a long while after graduation with the possibility of never achieving my goals. Anyway, back to the story, I was able to leave afterwards and started texting the girl I'm semi-interested in...the dialogue went something like this: What do you think of her? Well, she has her priorities in line, though I just met you and wanted to get to know you more. And hinted that I'd see her tomorrow night. And if this fails, then I'll just keep doing school clubs, dive into my schoolwork and follow my plan of going back to Chicago. Or just move on to the next girl, do yoga and all the alternatives to meeting women at bars/clubs. God I hate the bar scene. Too many creepy f***s there.

So last night I had the idea of going to the Ji Jitsu club on campus because it said no experience required. When we finished learning techniques for the evening, we did some freestyle and I had to sit out since that was my first session. Luckily, all of the girls that were there were sitting too so I sat and talked to them. Most were transfer students and one of them is close by to me. Started chatting her up, facebooked her and spoke to her later that night. Long story short before I left I asked what her plans were for the weekend and she and her friend are going to a bar/club nearby on Saturday. I had to get off the computer so I left her my number and she responded with hers, something that she hinted at wanting to do online. Turns out that we have a lot in common so rapport has already been established. So tomorrow I'm going to contact her and see what time she's going up there and when I get there with my wingman (for her friend who is celebrating her birthday a week late) I'm going to sit and buy her drinks and go dancing at the club. Should be a good time.

When asked if he used social media sites such as twitter, Piniella responded, "No I don't...I'm like a prime rib and baked potato."

I would gladly join.

Happy Birthday!

I couldn't be friends with my ex. She downgraded and chased the short fat guy with the pony tail at the "superior school" and decided that I wasn't worth it. I initially wanted to but I think that anyone in the initial panic post breakup stage wants to. At least I got out the unattractive image of her naked, there's clearly more attractive girls out there. OK - that might be a little too brutal.

And so I wonder what nights of watching movies and just chilling out with a woman feels like. Seriously, that was more fun than trying and failing.

Pick up attempt 1 - "Hi, I'm Ross. Tell me, what is the worst pickup line you've heard tonight...mine? Excellent. No seriously, what is it?" Lead to an uninteresting conversation about how this girl hates her landlord. Dance attempt 1 - Went up and danced with three girls, awaiting the other two of my friends. Didn't go so well. The verdict: I hate hip-hop culture. (I never want to be called homie or "brutha" again. And I hate the phrase "Oh s***, son.") And that it's probably better to just meet women in class or in clubs. I hate bars with a fiery passion. EDIT: Though, tonight was a confidence booster. I took more initiative than my other two friends that were there. It was nice to remember that I have some game and that I dance ridiculously. That is, I do random s*** as opposed to just grinding against some girl's ass for 1+ hours.

Here's a question for everyone in the thread - how did your first love break up with you? In my senior year, whilst on college visits, she decided it would be a great idea to break up with me, saying "I need space, I want to see my friends more, [i'm a hormonal woman]..." So my 19-year-old mind was devastated and convinced her that her and I should stay together. I successfully convinced her that we should stay together and that it would be good for us to stay together in college since we were going to school in the same area. (Dumbest idea ever and me today would want nothing more than to just beat the living s*** out me then.) I couldn't really pick out an area of study or the college for me because I was hung up on the relationship, my accounting class and being an editor for the sports section of the high school newspaper. If I went to COD state for a year, then I could have worked on the newspaper there at a cheaper cost, worked on math and went to NIU for a degree in journalism-PR and minored in business. Whatever, you don't need to have a degree in communications/journalism/English to work in PR. How hard is it to write a press release? The second time, my ex and I had been going back and forth between Champaign and Charles(waste)to(w)n to see each other. I came back from break in which she hinted at meeting some other schmuck at the U of I and she decided it would be a great idea to be a p**** and hide behind her computer screen to break up with me after all of that time. What is even more retarded is that she did so right before her birthday and Christmas. So I was out $150 after buying her a massage in Urbana and some other s*** for Christmas.

It's weird how this occurred so close to the February date of 2 years ago. Weird, I feel more spirit towards this school than I have for any school. Here's to hoping I go to grad school there.

Is there a website that could explain to me how the NBA free agency system works? Mid-level exception, max-offer free agents are not terms that I have in my repertoire. EDIT: http://www.usatoday.com/sports/basketball/...-analysis_x.htm Nvm.

David Schuster on 670 just echoed that this Damon to the Sox notion is likely and echoed that Damon's wife doesn't want to live in Detroit.

Me: Strike 3, you're out. Coach: Are you kidding me? Me: What? Coach: Donate your salary to the house of the blind! Me: You're outta here! I don't babysit 40-year-old men who are balding! That and the triple play that I had the fortune of witnessing.

One of the issues that I had with my old relationship is that it was always about her (not just sexually). Mostly what made me angry was that I always had to be around her family. Always. It was never balanced, she never came over to my place to hang with my family. I enjoyed her parents and at times, her siblings, but ultimately I felt that my ex never felt comfortable around my family. Which is rather surprising because my family is easy to get along with. And when she and I were with her friends, it didn't dawn on me till later that we just didn't gel together. I loved her, but when she was around other people should really be a b****. I think it's safe to say I'm going to take off the love blinders next time and see the woman I'm dating in a more critical manner next time.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 17, 2010 -> 06:23 AM) I have a question for everyone participating in this thread Everyone(I think) has a first love/puppy love crush/relationship, and it usually ends in total disaster due to the inability to deal with new emotions and feelings. How many of you had a first love that ended amicably, how many of you had a first love end in insane craziness that left you with some rather embarrassing memories, and how many of you are actually still with(married) your first love? Since I posed the question I will start. My first true love was with a girl I got with in my freshman year in college, she was a senior at my high school and ended up going to SIU with me. We dated for 3 years off and on, and when I decided that we werent meant for each other, I broke up with her for good. She got the last laugh, she dated the guy who lived in the apartment behind me, and basically drove me up the wall with insane jealousy(i know, i know, I broke up with her). It took about 6 months and a crazy 1 night stand to get her out of my mind and get my head right. Obviously my first love was a girl I met at the end of my sophomore year of high school in broadcasting class. Stayed with her all the way through high school and then went to college by her. When I visited colleges I was given the opportunity to get out of the relationship (as her hormones wanted to break up with me) and I chose to think with my penis instead of logic. (Note: Tell your son not to follow high school girlfriend. f***s things up majorly.) Ah well, should have gone to NIU or UIC and forgot about my media "dreams" long ago. Oh well, I'd rather make an impact in someone's life than sit around, talk or write about sports I don't care about the whole day. Anyway, I got her out of my head but it took me about a year to do so. QUOTE (SnB @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 05:51 PM) everyone goes through a "what the f*** was i thinking" year in college. Where once you make that realization, you have a ton more fun. No one worth a damn is the same person comign out of college as they were going into college. I know I went through the same thing you're going through at the end of my sophomore year. Doug, Stop over analyzing everything, drink more, go out as often as you can, and good things will happen. Strip club on Friday, party on Saturday.

QUOTE (SnB @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 02:31 PM) it's a more common story than you think. Most people go through something like that. Anyone care to chime in? What's a common part of my story? Just curious.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 11:14 AM) If you hadnt been telling us all that we were horrible alcoholics that were the scourge of the world in 2006 then maybe you would of listened to us a little bit My 19 year old mind was screwed from the start. I chose the wrong school for me and should have taken a year to man up by going to the community college and figuring out where exactly I wanted to go as well as learn some responsibility and people skills. Seriously, I was (yes was, I admit it) a f***ing reh-tard. Instead, I was high off my ass for a girl and chose a college that didn't suit me. Some days I wonder what would have happened if I accepted the break up during my senior year and just started working on my life from there. Even so, when was was at the initial institution, I became the slave of the media and never had time for myself or to discover who I was. So my views never changed until I was able to experience life and drop my "dream job" of covering stories I didn't give a crap about. Forgive the rant but that's exactly how I felt about the media, my grades slipped and I hated my life. I also needed to realize that there were more committed people out there to give their lives to a career they really wanted and that I wasn't the hottest thing on the face of the planet. But anyway.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 09:48 AM) Its all in your head Beast, you just think things through a bit too much. Relax a bit and have fun, it will come to you. Planning the whole event is just going to leave you upset when something doesnt happen the way you planned it or if something happens that you didnt plan for Holy s***, it's like de ja vu right now. If you all had been been echoing this s*** in my head in 2006, I would not be in the pickle that I am right now. That's what the little high school ex said to me senior year. Time to get drunk and get arrested this Friday. (Half kidding, of course.)

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 04:49 PM) Beast, your "friend" is using high school tricks. If she is playing along, or also dating some guy in the military(which probably means nothing), then move along my friend. Agreed, well my "friend" is someone that I knew from the paper in high school and at my previous institution. I'm definitely moving along to the next one. On the discourse of playing up my "no game" deficiency, I think I might as well just do it. The situation is that we go to this club on Saturday nights and it's real loud. I'll try and approach the girl with confidence, and come up with some weird pickup line before saying, "I bet some guy has probably already given you this lame line...can I buy you a drink?" "Yeah, I'm lame. But I'd like to hear some more about you to off-set my lameness."

QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 03:51 PM) There are so many jokes in there. Bring 'em on, woman. QUOTE (Heads22 @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 03:43 PM) If you have no game, one of the things you can do is try to play up your lack of game. You're kidding me, right?

Found out interesting news last night. A friend of mine apparently has been on the phone with the girl I've been talking to and has been making fun of me for having no game all of this time. Some friend he is and apparently she's in a relationship with a guy in the military. So, I spent the evening with my gay friend at Roundhead's and took down some jager and a Washington Apple drink. Weird times, and it looks like I'm back to the drawing board again as I'm passing over this floozy girl.

QUOTE (MHizzle85 @ Feb 12, 2010 -> 03:17 PM) IMO, I'd keep it casual. If you're doing something in Naperville, I wouldn't go for anywhere too fancy. I was thinking of Mongolian BBQ, not La Sorella Di Francesca.