My thought on this is the husband would probably know her thoughts and wishes in this regard more so than her parents. Most couple at least discuss this issue and most people wouldn't with their family. I think its terrible she is suffering and the heartache is there for all but sometimes you just have to let go. This may be terribly insensitive but I have been accused of that b4 but what she needs is pillow therapy or morphine under the tongue to quicken her demise...its more humane than to have her live her life like she currently is or to starve to death. Its just my thoughts on it in which I am sure most won't agree with but hey...