Reddy

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Dec 7, 2012 -> 12:16 PM) I really believe I would succeed, but thats just me. As you can tell, even from posting about my beloved Chicago White Sox I'm an extreme optimist and thats where my belief in succeeded is coming from. George's Gyros was around forever and had no social media influence, I think that right there tells me success could be had at this location. The place that failed, didn't have a social media influence either, and the food and customer service sucked which is why I think they failed. When you go into a restaurant you wanna feel welcome, you wanna feel at home, and if you don't feel that and the food sucks chances are you're not gonna wanna come back. I feel my menu plan is pretty solid in offering people a choice, I feel my food will be fantastic, my customer service will make people feel welcome and want to come back, getting the hospital and police station involved is a smart move, and getting it involved in social media will be a huge boost over what was there before. If I could find someone to invest that knows how to balance the checkbook there's no doubt in my mind I can be successful....but like I said thats just my attitude. you've made this exact post over and over again in this thread while ignoring a lot of the advice we're giving you. that said, if you'd rather run a food truck, and you're good with working security till you can afford one, then by all means do that! (though I'm not sure how much you'll be able to actually SAVE working as a security guard)

QUOTE (kapkomet @ Dec 6, 2012 -> 10:31 PM) There's a big difference between doing what the law allows vs. not. But of course, you can't see that. lol relax. and i agree lets not derail the thread.

QUOTE (Alpha Dog @ Dec 6, 2012 -> 10:09 PM) Why do Democrats, especially ones that like to raise taxes and work for the Obama admin, LOVE to cheat on or forget to pay their taxes? Guess they don't hold the responsibility of paying taxes as highly as others... ...... example? cuz I can think of Romney off the top of my head.

QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Dec 6, 2012 -> 04:12 PM) No,bmags was right if it were JUST the money, he wouldn't be doing it NOW as opposed to two years ago, or in a few more years... it's not like that option hasn't been available for him and wouldn't be at the end of his term. side note, why do republicans - those who preach personal responsibility - LOVE bailing from their terms as elected officials? guess they don't hold the responsibility of public office as highly as others...

This has Gen. Petraeus written all over it.

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Dec 6, 2012 -> 12:05 AM) This has just came up now because the location is 5 houses away and would be so convenient. I'm aware its just a pipe dream at the moment without the funds. It's just gotten blown up because I'm very passionate about it. I know I make delicious food, from my dinner parties back in the day to cooking for my family and I love to do it. I feel like my menu idea that I posted earlier is a pretty solid plan. This has all gotten overblown but I will continue to respond, and continue to believe that given the funds I would be successful. I'm pretty friggin stubborn when it comes to this. As far as the real world goes I'm still looking for a security job. Thats what I enjoy and what I'm good at. I love the respect it brings and I love communicating with others. This restaurant thing would give me the same kinda respect and communication I'm after being the only or 1 of 2 guys there....This would be the same reason I've said I wanna run a food truck. and with that security job, what are you going to be doing 10 years from now? if you had a line cook job, in ten years you could be running your own restaurant. just something to think about.

QUOTE (chw42 @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 11:37 PM) Petco park is the biggest killer of offensive numbers in baseball. Headley's been a good player for a long time. He just happened to improve his power dramatically last year. Headley is a 35-40 HR player in a park like the Cell. Even though his OPS has been stuck around the mid to high 700s for most of his career, his career wRC+ is 116, 16% above league average. That's how much Petco screws with his stats. Headley's wOBA away from Petco is .364 vs. .316 at Petco (.836 vs. 695 in terms of OPS). You have yourself a classic Adrian Beltre in Seattle situation. Once Beltran got out of Safeco, his offensive numbers exploded. The good thing about Headley is that he's been good (last year) in a horrible hitter's park like Petco. Beltre never put up Headley's numbers from last year while with the M's. Chase Headley is a very good hitter and a very good defender. He's worth the hype. where have i heard that before? kidding aside though - good insight. i may take a closer look and re-evaluate... i DONT think 30 hr is his norm by ANY stretch, and the OBP has only been good in the last couple years... but we'll see. still not sure i'd risk the $$

QUOTE (Jake @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 11:26 PM) I won't go that far but for the likely price, the risk that he goes back to a slightly above average player are too high for me. He'd instantly be our best 3B and would probably stay there for years... but at what cost? His .875 OPS last year drastically inflates his career OPS and it's still at .769 No, he's not awful, but he's NOT - like you said - worth 30 hr 100 rbi money by a LONG shot.

QUOTE (Jake @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 11:21 PM) Given the likely cost, I'd prefer a player who has had more than one season of better than .800 OPS or more than 12 Hrs or more than 64 RBIs, especially when said player is 28 and has had several relatively unexciting seasons. Headley is not good. Agreed.

QUOTE (greg775 @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 10:16 PM) Will they give Morel a chance to beat out this stiff? I think we'll all be clamoring for Morel if he's healthy. 1) you are HORRIBLE at evaluating baseball players (Kep averages 30ish strikeouts per full season of at bats. That's amazing) 2) Keppinger is VASTLY better than Brent Morel and isn't coming off a back injury

QUOTE (PlaySumFnJurny @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 05:14 PM) I never heard of Jeff Keppinger before yesterday. I'm wondering whether that says more about me as a fan or him as a player. nah, it just means you don't play fantasy baseball.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 01:07 PM) I'm not sure we ended up agreeing to disagree...I think we both came to more of an understanding as to what the other person was trying to say. That's often what's hard about forums...trying to make sure nothing get's lost in translation. Often we write small sentences and "fill in the blanks" in our own minds, assuming everyone will understand what we mean when we say something without having expand on it...but more often than not, they don't. My point wasn't that communication cannot work...it's that it often doesn't work because people find out their incompatibilities are so major, communicating them doesn't and cannot fix them. that's where we were missing each other. I'm not saying communication always ends with couples staying together and being happy - but I'm saying it's necessary to see if the incompatibilities are reconcilable or not. and in those discussions 100% honesty is essential. holy crap we were saying the same thing.

damnit this is what sucks about agreeing to disagree. that was the most exciting thread i've participated in on this site in like... months. #ihatetheoffseason (when deals aren't being made)

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:46 PM) Hey, don't get into the middle of this. Arguing with Reddy is like arguing with Y2HH. We are quite similar in this regard. And it's a challenge and fun. Also, to touch on your points...some of what you said I agree with, but not all. There are people that can do everything right -- by choice -- and still die of lung cancer. That has nothing to do with self control. uh oh, he's pulling out the third person. now we're in trouble

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:39 PM) It again comes to compatibilities...your parents found themselves in a moderate incompatibility. As I highlighted above, certain incompatibilities can be overcome...such as this one for example. Others cannot be. There is a scale/degree of incompatibility, something a lot of people want to ignore. For me, specifically, this would have been a complete non issue...my career isn't very important to me. what you SAID though, was that if two people are right for each other (compatible) that it should be EASY. It isn't always easy. No matter what. If your life has been easy, and you're happy, then more power to you. You're the exception - not the rule.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:36 PM) Also, stop putting words in my mouth -- highlighted text. I never said this. You just did/made it up. Nobody is 100% compatible...but there are incompatibilities and then there are INCOMPATIBILITIES. Me not eating meat while my wife does (hypothetical) is an incompatibility. Me wanting to be monogamous and my wife loving to sleep around/have an open sexual relationship outside of our marriage is an INCOMPATIBILITY. There are incompatibilities you can overcome, because they're minor...and ones you will never overcome... so you think that wanting to cheat is something you're born with and not a choice? you're also pro-gay rights correct? i just want to make sure you're consistent.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:33 PM) Actually I do understand them...because I've been in a successful relationship that turned into a marriage (now with children). And it's not hard. It's easy...and it's awesome...and it's fun. I refer you back to my post on the last page about my parents. please explain how that should have been an easy situation.

QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:28 PM) I admit that I read about half of one of y2hh's posts before responding, I haven't really been following the conversation. He's just sitting in his rocker yelling expletives at the young whipper snapper who values communication, while his wife bakes him a pie.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:23 PM) Again, lack of self control are what lead to cheating...always. Festering and rotting is simply the excuse they'll use when caught. lack of self control wouldn't even come into the equation if the festering and rotting hadn't happened first. and StrangeSox you're right, I don't think it's a universal thing. I'm just saying that in situations where men (or women) cheat, it can all be traced back to a genesis of bad communication.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:18 PM) You're off base in that you think open communication and honesty is 99% of making a marriage or relationship work. It's not. That's a simplistic Dr. Phil way of looking at relationships. It's a talking point that people love to hear because if it were true, it would be a simple solution to all of their problems AND it would make every single person on the planet compatible: "All of your problems will be solved by open communication!" Wrong. You're problems only exist because you're incompatible as people, and communicating those incompatibilities doesn't fix them. Finding a person that's actually compatible with you is the hard part...the part nobody talks about. Most people try to jam their incompatible selves into a relationship because a few superficial things happen to mesh for them...namely attractiveness, and then think they can overcome those incompatibles just by talking about them, or worse, thinking that they'll change the person. Where you ARE right, however is that open/honest communication CAN prevent you from entering into a relationship with an incompatible mate. But that requires the communication to be open and honest BEFORE the relationship begins...and therein lies the rub. Most couples in the early phase of meeting each other are in an excited state and tend to only talk about "good" things...things people like to hear...or things they ARE compatible with. It's not until later they figure out what their true incompatibilities are. sir, i'm not sure you understand what communicating actually entails. openly talking about your fears, the things that bother you, and your weaknesses is actually one of the hardest things in the world to do - especially when you're worried about how the person you love is going to react. the fact that my recent ex DIDN'T communicate well with me months ago is the reason we're going through all this now. (that said, we're currently communicating better than ever and things are actually looking pretty good for us down the road). you say I live in Dr. Phil land, you live in mystical "the one" land where you will someday find that ONE person who is PERFECTLY compatible with you and you'll never fight and you'll live all Leave it to Beaver happily ever after. please.

QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:21 PM) Communication can bring issues to the surface before they fester and rot, but that doesn't mean every issue is resolvable. this. festering and rotting are what lead to cheating more often than not.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:00 PM) You sound like a true pro that just took a few college courses in the social arts and now you're going to tell everyone what's what by regurgitating a few simplistic talking points you probably heard from an episode of Dr. f*** Phil. you're pretty hostile about all this for no reason... Dr. Phil might say you're "projecting".

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:00 PM) The biggest lie people love to repeat is that marriage/relationships is/are hard. No they aren't. They're easy if you're with the right person. EASY. If you have to "try" to be in a relationship or marriage, you shouldn't be in it. my parents have been together over 30 years, and in the last year or two went through a really rough patch because my dad had a huge career opportunity, but it required he move across the country. my mom didn't want to give up her life in Iowa. Tell me that wasn't hard on them. Tell me that should have been an EASY thing to deal with.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 12:00 PM) Right, coming from the young kid in this 20's that has zero experience with a family or a marriage. Hell, you've never even had a successful relationship yet based on your recent comments and you're going to preach to everyone about marriage and openness and honesty? Give it up, you're out of your jurisdiction now. You sound like a true pro that just took a few college courses in the social arts and now you're going to tell everyone what's what. depends on how you qualify "successful". I'd say all my relationships have been successful to a point, because I've learned a hell of a lot from each of them. Moreover I'm not a typical hit it and quit it guy. I've only been in two serious relationships in my adult years, both lasting a couple years. I'm a serial monogamist, so while no, I have not been married, I DO understand - at least a little bit - about what it takes to have a happy and healthy relationship. Am I still learning? Hell yes. Is everyone constantly learning, even someone who's been in a 25 year marriage, another hell yes. I understand that it's not all rainbows and unicorns. I understand how much WORK a good partnership takes. And I also understand that unless you're completely honest with that partner, that already rough road gets even rockier. where am i off base?

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Dec 5, 2012 -> 11:56 AM) It comes from people wanting what they can't have. You can communicate all day long to a person...if they want to have sex with other women, they're going to have sex with other women, because they don't care about the consequences, nor do they think they'll get caught. Keep leaning on the communication bulls***, though. It's just an excuse people love to use. haha you're ridiculous right now.