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QUOTE (farmteam @ Oct 26, 2012 -> 11:54 AM) "Pump a fat bird" is pretty solid. haha yes, yes it is. joxer you're awesome. that said, i ignored you. called her earlier about her coming over to grab her stuff. she said she was free tomorrow, but then said "why don't i just come over tonight." not reading into it, but at least she's not trying to put it off. said she's had a rough week, i made some jokes and we laughed, etc, etc. again - doesn't mean anything - but here's what i decided. i wanna talk tonight to air everything out. get all my questions answered, answer hers, etc. if she still feels like she made the right decision, then that'll be it and i'll move on. seems logical/rational right? haha

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Oct 23, 2012 -> 07:01 AM) If you want to truly feel muscles you didn't know you had, jump in a pool and swim for few miles. It will make anything else you do look like playtime in comparison. IMO, there is no better/harder workout than swimming, especially when you take into account it's zero impact. truth.

get this. I'm now rooting for the tigers. what? yeah. weird.

haha this game comes down to the two teams of my last two exes. i have no idea who i want to win. lol! the giants fan ex is the recent one, but i like the giants as a team better than the cardinals. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!

yeah that whole losing my willpower thing? happening in a big way. more time that passes, the less and less sense this all makes and the more i want to talk with her about it. this stuff is so dumb. she's probably not contacting me because i'm not contacting her and we both don't wanna be the first to break. why do we do s*** like that? lol people are stupid.

Obama's first debate performance was like the White Sox collapse in September of '05. Just needed to make things interesting before catching fire and finishing it off in style.

QUOTE (kapkomet @ Oct 20, 2012 -> 07:18 PM) I guess that's true. The thing is, if she's looking at that and wondering more about herself then you and her, then she's being selfish and not ready to commit and it's better that you know that now. At least that's what it sounds like from afar, but then again, I have no idea if that's true, so don't hold that against me. But if you get back together, that's something you will have to work out because otherwise you're always going to wonder. Yep, you're absolutely right. On both counts. I'm really surprised the more time that passes. I didn't see this coming in any way, shape, or form. Like, things were completely fine until she had a convo with her mom on friday. Hell she was still saying she loved me as she was crying, blah blah blah, which I didn't give in to, and told her that wasn't fair. but maybe that proves she needs this for herself. That said, I'm not waiting. She was awesome for me in most regards, but there were things that bugged me too. But of course in these first few days I'm only gonna think of the good. Fortunately I know how I am and deleted her number and blocked her on Facebook. So I can't get in touch even if I lose my willpower and want to.

QUOTE (kapkomet @ Oct 20, 2012 -> 05:46 PM) Whatever happened to helping each other out and taking things as they come together? Just wondering. yeah i mean that's something i said to her - so she gets back on her own, focuses on her career, starts kicking ass, and then what? what's to stop her from dropping it all again the next time she's in a relationship? if you work on each side individually, you're never working on the balance of having both at the same time - which - theoretically - is the eventual goal right?

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 20, 2012 -> 05:35 PM) Wow how ironic with your words on living up to potential. To add to the irony this thread is bringing, my ex unblocked me on AIM (yes i still rock AOL instant messenger) a few days ago when I first began talking about her. which is exactly WHY i agree with her decision! lol, it's something that's come up a couple other times over the last year. doesn't make it easier on MY front though.

it was one of those things that was completely amicable, and even worse, i completely understand and AGREE with her reasons. she's an actor too, but since we got together, she ... sort of put her career on hold it seems. she stopped being as driven PERSONALLY and started caring more about the relationship. That led to her becoming kind of co-dependent, and she recently had a huge broadway audition that really re-sparked her passion. the kicker? she only got it because I opened the doors and had my agent submit her for it. So if it weren't for me, she wouldn't have had that opportunity. The way she looked at it was that she wants to know if she has what it takes to do it on her own, without someone else's charity. seems silly since no one in this, or any business, succeeds without help from SOMEBODY, but I also get where she's coming from. She needs to define herself outside the relationship and decide what she really wants out of life. sucks because I can't be mad about it. lol

Cross Fit day one - 44 pullups in 20 minutes! BOOM!

hahahhahahahahahaha the world is hilarious guess who's relationship just ended after two years? who can say irony?

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 19, 2012 -> 10:12 PM) I think we've established from your posts that you don't mean that green. It's clear I don't live up to your standards. You can't say you're edge if you still do it a little though. are you serious dude? the only reason i've posted all that is because i think you ARE fully capable of doing anything you want with your life. but if that's how you took all this then i apologize.

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 19, 2012 -> 09:51 PM) lol not at all what i meant. i was genuinely surprised at how little i do any of those things anymore. it was a weird realization lightbulb-y moment. but yes i'm better than you.

it's weird, i've lost all my desire to drink. i still will on occasion, but it's weird... i just don't care about it anymore. and i've never smoked. i'm so damn straight edge. lol

QUOTE (Rowand44 @ Oct 19, 2012 -> 07:35 PM) Is there anything worse/better than a heavy leg day? I. Hate. Leg. Day. the end.

QUOTE (Brian @ Oct 19, 2012 -> 01:00 PM) I deleted it from DVR. Just can't get into it since pilot. I like ELEMENTARY a lot. seriously? seriously? just watch Sherlock on Netflix. no horrible lucy liu trying to act.

QUOTE (Jake @ Oct 18, 2012 -> 11:20 PM) What did you do Tony?!?! You just did the thing you said we should stop doing. You literally spent the article shoving very old school ideas about what a productive lifestyle should be like down my throat. not true at all. old school ideas are you get a job, get a wife, raise a family, and that's it. you take the job you're given and suck it up and do it whether you like it or not.

weird. Tony Horton posted this tonight on his facebook:

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Oct 18, 2012 -> 05:21 PM) NYC is way higher of a pay structure than Chicago. baristas and coffee house workers still make $8-$10/hour in NYC. it's not way higher.

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 18, 2012 -> 10:13 PM) I think, though I'm not positive, you can't carry a gun with a felony on your record...I'd have to look into that again. Naw man you're all good, I appreciate what you're trying to do. Like I said though, I don't smoke to look cool, fit in, or drown away my problems, I genuinely just like the feeling of being high, it's cloud 9 for me. I also have chronic neck and back pain, if weed was legal in IN or I moved to a state it was this wouldn't even be an issue...well only because I had some card that magically makes the drug alright. get in shape that pain will be gone. dude, at the end of the day, it sounds like you're happy right where you are. and if that's the case, then that's great. i'm the type of person who wants to be the best version of myself i can be - but i know not everyone's as crazy as me. and more power to you if you really are happy. i just don't wanna look back on my death bed and wish I'd done it differently ya know?

QUOTE (greg775 @ Oct 18, 2012 -> 04:29 PM) Why is it "safer" than alcohol? Just curious. Also how old are you? You seem pretty sharp. Why are you setting limits to low paying job careers? What is a security job? Stay up all night at a company guarding something or what? Exactly. $11/hr is pretty awful. I'm making $23/hr working as a cater waiter. Requires the same skills as being a security guard( none) and pays twice as much. Set higher goals for yourself dude. What are you afraid of?

QUOTE (Jake @ Oct 18, 2012 -> 11:21 AM) optimists unite i mean... sort of. lol your post was promoting cautious, tempered, tip-toeing optimism. i'm not sure that works for most people in the long run.

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 17, 2012 -> 10:00 AM) It may be an excuse but its a valid excuse. I've got no family to borrow from, all the family members I know are somewhat poor. All my friends spend their money on weed and house/apartment bills...A fundraiser might be feasible for a sick child, but no ones gonna give me money to start a restaurant. I don't know about you guys but nothing in my life has ever been given to me. I had a job at 16, and since then the only thing thats been given to me was a roof over my head and when I'm not working, food on my plate. The only way I'm getting a restaurant is if I work my "mediocre" security guard (I know people who would kill for a 11 dollar an hour job) and save up an do it myself. It's not as easy as you wanna make it sound, esp for a guy like me. of course it's not easy! did i say it was easy? it's hard as f***. but the difference between the people who are successful and the people who aren't, is that they're willing to do that work. for example. there's a woman named Dani Johnson who is now a network marketing trainer for companies similar to Beachbody. When she was 19 she was boke and homeless. Her husband drained her bank account, maxed out her credit cards and then jumped ship. She was living out of a car. She got into network marketing and failed miserably, just like you did. At 21 she somehow found a way to scrap together and save enough money to go to this training seminar for network marketing. When she left that seminar, she made $2,000 in the next 4 days. She made $50K in the next couple months, and two years later, by the time she was 23, she made her first million. What did she have that you don't? Nothing. In fact, she was WORSE off than you, but because she was willing to work hard, and because she had aspirations, she was able to completely change her life and become a multi-millionaire. That was in the early 90s. She now teaches others how to do what she did. Can you talk? Can you walk? Can you pick up a phone or sit at a computer? Then you can have the life you WANT instead of the life you think you're stuck with. That's what I'm doing right now, man. I have a degree in Theatre. But I'm going to make an extra 6-10K this year doing my network marketing business. Next year will be more, and more, and more till I don't have to work my s***ty catering job. You're unemployed so you've got the time - now just start doing something with it! If you want to learn HOW to do all these things, I can point you to some awesome reading. But at the end of the day, you have to want it yourself. Question - how would your life be better if you owned your own restaurant than it is right now?

QUOTE (2nd_city_saint787 @ Oct 16, 2012 -> 12:20 PM) Yes, being a security guard is what I wanna be. I don't have the money to go to college to be a sports journalist, I don't have the money to start my own restaurant, and right now I don't have the money to train to be a pro wrestler. Security, and potentially pro wrestling might be it for me and I'd be happy with that. I'm joining boxing classes, who knows maybe I have some potential there and can do security and box. Maybe next season I can get scouted for rugby, I was told I had potential by a guy who was indeed scouted and now is getting paid to play overseas. Like I said earlier, money doesnt buy me happiness. I've been poor all my life, so I've learned to be happy without all the finer things in life. I am what I am. If I can save enough money to start my own restaurant or food truck then great, thatd be awesome! If not I'm fine with that. And as far as p90x goes, you knew ahead of time I wasnt really interested, I just spur of the moment agreed. I wanna do some heavy lifting and get stacked like that rugby player i sent you. The boxing club I'm joining has a gym inside so I can do that, and use the boxing as my cardio. I'm a physical guy, boxing is something that will keep me into it. When I was working I still went bowling, I went to sox games, I did it all, was it still tainted? yes. but I still did it. I never said I wasn't, I just said it was tainted and would bring back memories. Once I start working and find someone to replace that hole, those feelings will be washed away....In the 2 years I haven't had that girl to fill that hole. I didn't quit coaching, I didnt have the money to continue. I don't have anyone helping me, anything I do I do it myself. you just proved my point. I said that people in your position tend to convince themselves they're happy with mediocre, even though - if they COULD - they'd rather be doing something else. Like opening a restaurant or a food truck. the "i don't have money" excuse is THE biggest excuse people make - that and "i don't have time" but guess what? it's still an excuse. Here's an example. Few years down the road, you've got a kid. That kid gets sick. Doctor says there's a cure, but it will cost you $4,000. If you don't get this cure, your kid's gonna die. So you're left with a choice: will you throw up your arms and say "oh well?" or will you do EVERYTHING YOU CAN to scrape together the money? Will you ask your family? Will you ask your friends? Will you hold a fundraiser? The answer is obvious. Of COURSE you'd do anything to get that $4,000. See? Money's an excuse. If you want something badly enough, there's a way to get it. Take a listen: