reiks12

good loss so far

I am also on the 'trade him' bandwagon as long as the price is right

all of these

QUOTE (hi8is @ Jun 14, 2017 -> 09:49 PM) Thanks for your thoughts in a couple of places here. Can you expound upon the above, as I haven't come across it and don't have your background. Also, what do you think of the fact that this abuse happened for two years starting when the victim was 4 and ending when she was 6? I understand completely what you mean about being kept up at night by being exposed to this sort of trauma. Been there. The concept of secondary victim or trauma by proxy is real. Every case is different however I would say that a lot of these are when the offender wants power and control over something in their lives. As I mentioned earlier it might also be exploring sexuality (seen a lot when teenage boys molest other boys), or maybe they are just plain attracted to children. Most of the time once they are deep into their counseling they discover for themselves what it is they are really getting out of it. Once they figure that out they can start to "heal" themselves. As far as the red flag comments goes, we would have the offenders create safety plans where they would recognize whenever they were about to have thoughts. My group would make a list about ten things they need to be mindful of and 5 things that were extremely high risk. For instance, arguing with mom and dad would be something an offender would have to be mindful of because it could set off a chain reaction of events, or a cycle as we call it. That argument could lead to this teenager shutting out his parents (remember, offenders love control), hiding in his room, watching porn, manipulating, until eventually reoffending. As a counselor it was easy to see who was in a cycle. Some kids would be wearing their coats in the middle of summer (they are hiding something), others just wouldn't bathe (trying to push people away). Some would say outlandish comments to try and get a reaction out of you (pushing away again or 'hey, please ask me what is wrong'. Being able to exit this cycle is crucial and creating this safety plan is a must. So if a teenager is able to say to himself "ok, I am starting to argue, I am going to say OK to this and not let it affect me", then the above scenario not likely to happen. If that kid argues and shuts his door, he has to be aware that he is in a cycle and that he needs to find a way to exit it as soon as possible before things get worse. That is just one example of many, everyone has triggers. For instance when I was quitting smoking I couldn't go on balconies and there were some friends I just couldn't see because I knew I would relapse. If I did happen to be around those friends on a balcony, I would have to figure out a way to either remove myself or have them punch me in the face if i asked for a smoke. Anything not to smoke. The 5 things that were of extreme high risk would be being alone with children at any time, not informing your support team of activities involving minors, lying (power again, lying for whatever reason gives them adrenaline rush), being around computers alone, or having sexual thoughts relating to children. If these events were to trigger than the offender would need to reach out for support. It may sound silly but these lists were INGRAINED in their brains and they lived by them. As strange as that sounds it is the most important thing for these kids because 99% of them WANT to get better. They want to be normal. With all that said, that is why I am concerned with him being alone with minors still. That is the most basic thing they teach these offenders and since it was beaten in his head for 2 years he should know better than that. That is a red flag meaning hes being sneaky about it. Sneaky is high risk. Anyways, sorry if the above is confusing and all over the place. I typed it up fast and there is a lot to say on the topic.

STOP WITH THESE f***ING BUNTS

I don't have much optimism for Tim Anderson, just flails out there at balls far out of the zone

QUOTE (GermanSock @ Jun 14, 2017 -> 07:21 PM) That is true but there are also people who think he doesn't deserve a second chance regardless of whether there is a chance of relapse or not. Legal punishment is not just to protect society but also for justice to the family of the victim. A murderer also doesn't get a second chance usually even if there is very little risk for a relapse. Before I go further I will say I don't condone child molestation, it kept me up at night hearing the stuff these kids of done. There is a fine line between justice and revenge. Prison, jail, or forced therapy was put in place to rehabilitate, not punish. If the young man is rehabilitated and is doing what he needs to do then that in itself is providing justice. It means there won't be another victim who will then create more victims as they age. It is breaking the cycle. Revenge doesn't help anyone and might in fact deter others from coming forward be it the offender or victim. I completely understand the revenge mentality towards these kind of people as it is human nature to want to protect children. It becomes especially hard when its a child hurting another. I haven't looked into this story too much and I will admit I didn't read this thread, but I did read that he put himself in a situation where he had no support that knew of his past and that he was still spending time around minors. Not sure what minors means in this context. Still, that isn't something he should have done and if his counseling was any good he would know that. That is a huge red flag.

Luis Robert must be absolutely drained after those 6 atbats hr had over the last week or so

There is a high chance that counseling helped this guy. I was a therapist in Missouri for teenagers who did this sort of thing. A little over 90% of teenagers who do this go on to live healthy lives and don't reoffend. The same can't be said about adults. A lot of this sort of thing happens because of doubts about their own sexuality and growing up without any boundaries. Of course there is a lot more to it but thats what was common between most of the kids that I worked with. Most kids I worked with felt great shame and showed a lot of motivation to deal with whatever issues they were going through. More often than not dealing with those issues allowed them to focus on healthy relationships and to honor their victims. Society will never separate child sex offender from adult sex offender even though countless studies suggest they should. Very sad.

we need to stop winning games.. a few more losses last season and we would have had haseley

QUOTE (ChiSox1917 @ Jun 12, 2017 -> 10:42 PM) Will White Sox concession stands have a burger named after burger in a few years? The Burger Burger? Burger and Beer

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Jun 12, 2017 -> 10:19 PM) Gavin Sheets profile http://www.minorleagueball.com/2017/6/11/1...rest-university 2017 campaign (.322/.429/.634, 20 homers, 44 walks, 33 strikeouts in 227 at-bats very nice, love the K rate there Looks like the Sox are going to emphasize low K numbers. Very promising

+ defender according to Harold

Anderson missing the ball by a foot, not once, but 3 times in that atbat

hoping for a loss here after losing out on Haseley. Build up that draft position!

How do you know their draft pick? It hasnt been announced yet

Could haseley fall to us?

The anticipation is killing me

What a wasted opportunity. If Q was doing well this season it would be an easy trade for both the Astros and White Sox with what is going on to their rotation. Q gets soft and everything messes up. I doubt he gets moved

4th pick. I will say 1 month until we pass the Giants. Ill take #3

Well if i was a fan of a contender I would be really pissed if they gave up anything for Quintana. He has been really hard to watch when he gets in nibble mode

Garbage

Nice inning for q. Lets go for 8 more

QUOTE (SoxPride18 @ Jun 9, 2017 -> 09:27 AM) https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/mlb/c...ries/102635742/ Carlos Correa comes out and says that the Astros need another #1 #2 top of the rotation type pitcher to make a deep run. Quintana for Tucker ++ Astros fanbase would crucify him if he gave up anything for Q right now.

relax on moncada