Gene Honda Civic Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I did say at least. This is just to begin to understand. As Jas said it keeps changing because you learn new things about a person all the time. i didn't even look at who wrote that dan, i thought I was responding to Willie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I fear Im going insane and this is not what Laura would have wanted. Although I will sustain my promise, Im going to add to it. Id need to move on and find other people. Yet I will always remember Dec 31, 2003, as the day I met Laura, the most wonderful person Ive ever met. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I agree with all that except sometimes people change. That's not learning something new about them, but it's the person changing. The simplest analogy I can think of is if a person changes which sports team they like. You knew the team they liked before, then you had to relearn the new team they liked. Definately, its the person changing through what they've learned from their life experiences. For example, when college comes, at least a few of your really good friends move farther away and you go from seeing them every day to during breaks and stuff like that. While you still know a lot, everytime you see them they are definately a lot more different then you remember. And to think, I don't even have a philosphy degree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HighHeat45 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 what about drugs, cus it with all these crazy promises it sounds like you are on somethin This is not what Laura would have wanted, it makes no sense to me at all. You are going to suffer because a girl you liked got away Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Ive never done drugs and I never will. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Ive never done drugs and I never will. I'll say this much, if your down because of this, don't be, if she was the girl you describe, she definately wouldn't want you to be upset. If she effected you to make your life better, than thats awesome, but it shouldn't depress you, no matter how much it really does suck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 You are going to suffer because a girl you liked got away No, no, no. Girl I LOVED got away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HighHeat45 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 well, the drinking part makes no sense to me at all so here is a scenario --Your at a party 20 years from now and a friend asks you if you want a drink, you would say "no, i gave up drinking when i was 16 and a girl i loved got away"-- people would think you are crazy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I'll say this much, if your down because of this, don't be, if she was the girl you describe, she definately wouldn't want you to be upset. If she effected you to make your life better, than thats awesome, but it shouldn't depress you, no matter how much it really does suck. Youre right! I should be happy about this. Laura was wonderful and having met her shouldnt make me sad but it should make me happy. Thats another promise. From now on, I shall only think of Laura in a happy reminiscent way and not a sad depressed way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 well, the drinking part makes no sense to me at all so here is a scenario --Your at a party 20 years from now and a friend asks you if you want a drink, you would say "no, i gave up drinking when i was 16 and a girl i loved got away"-- people would think you are crazy Ill simply say no thank you, I dont drink. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HighHeat45 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 if you dont drink, chances are youll never meet any amazing women again, because... almost all the married couples i know met for the first time at a bar, when you are old enough you wont go to bars and miss out on alot of fun times and people that are at bars. the drinking one is the one that most boggles my mind, but they all do so ya know. if anything you should be partyien more to forget about laura, the worst thing you can do is think about her all your life, it would drive any person crazy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gene Honda Civic Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Youre right! I should be happy about this. Laura was wonderful and having met her shouldnt make me sad but it should make me happy. Thats another promise. From now on, I shall only think of Laura in a happy reminiscent way and not a sad depressed way. good so lets stop replying to a thread called I'm depressed... create another called Laura is the best girl I've ever met, but this one should die a slow, painful death. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 No one else is worth it I guess. Atleast not here in Roanoke. And I met Laura on the dance floor, not in a bar. And nothing says you have to drink at a bar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 good so lets stop replying to a thread called I'm depressed... create another called Laura is the best girl I've ever met, but this one should die a slow, painful death. Nah. The title is out of significance but lets not start a new thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Good night fellas. Ive got to get to bed but Ill teply to anything more later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gene Honda Civic Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Just like you'd pour a 40 oz. on the curb for all the homies who couldn't make it to the party, I'm going to waste a little vaseline in you memory tonight willie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wise Master Buehrle Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Willie, I'm gonna be blatantly serious with you. If you had indeed asked her for an e-mail or an AIM address, all of your conversations over the internet would start out great. You'd learn more about her, and she'd learn more about you. Then, they would start diminishing, and sometimes, to replenish conversation, sometimes arguments or debates occur, over petty, stupid things. Eventually there would be times where you see her on your buddy list, and see if she says anything first, but nothing comes, so you IM her, thinking she's probably doing homework or something. You guys say "Hi" to each other, you might try to strike a conversation with some sort of topic, and a reply would come 3 minutes later. There is so much more I could add. I guess the bottomline is, it wouldn't have worked out. You both are too young. Now, if you guys meet again at the age of 21 or so, things could definately work out. You'd probably be more depressed in 2 months than you are now if you had kept in touch with her, if you still cling to her at that time. Now, about this quitting drinking business. I suppose you're going to have a lot of fun watching Times Square by yourself on New Years Eve in your 20s, while EVERYONE you know is drinking, partying, and having a good time. Rarely do you want to be the only sober one at the party, and being a designated driver must be a huge pain in the ass. What about your birthdays too? Your friends are gonna want to take you to a strip club and drink some booze, and you'll say no to them? What would they think of you then, as the biggest wimp they've ever known. Do what you want, but you may regret never drinking again. I'm sorry if I seemed a bit fierce in my post, but I had to say this to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texsox Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 almost all the married couples i know met for the first time at a bar, Let me add this. All the old married couples I know, who have been married 20+ years, didn't meet in a bar. Could just be the social opportunities in the 70's, maybe not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sox4lifeinPA Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I changed the name of this thread to be a positive reflection on the situation. well, since I helped fuel this crazy thread, I'm gonna help resolve it. I'm just gonna reply to certain things. First of all, I think the cheat has the right idea it's time to move on, but I also understand that while something is fresh in your mind, it's all you think about and it consumes you. I don't think you should listen to anyone about the changing yourself for the better. I think as you get older, you'll see that drinking isn't a bad thing, but there's a time and a place for it and it can be fun to be with friends and kick back. I respect you for just saying no to it, because it is a stupid destraction for high school kids. The no porn thing is the best idea. it's destructive and it steals your soul and creates improbable expectations of the woman you'll marry. Good luck with the no masturbating thing... it's tough. I think that you shouldn't let anyone take away from your experience. It obviously was a wake up call for you....it's cool that it came a your age, because mine didn't come until I was 21 or so. I would just sit back and relax and be happy you had this chance to see into your future. Yahtzee had the right idea that right now this situation wouldn't have worked out. I think he's also right that when you're older things are more plausible. I'm living proof. Are there other girls like that in pennsylvania? Have you seen Miss Sox4life? enough said. If I were you I'd apply to Penn State. as john stewart once said....."what's penn state? it's cow cow cow 40,000 hot chicks cow cow cow. THAT'S Penn state." it's a good time there. girls are like scout badges. some mean more than others, but you collect them along the way and they are at times painful, other times amazing, reminders of the past. Then one day you meet "the one" and burn those badges in a slow death and move on to what you've been looking for all along. that's all I've got. good luck willie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steff Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Let me add this. All the old married couples I know, who have been married 20+ years, didn't meet in a bar. Could just be the social opportunities in the 70's, maybe not. I'll chime in, too. Most I know met from a setup or at the workplace. Now-a-days, work is the #1 place to meet a spouse. Jim and I met at work... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboz56 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Willie, I'm gonna be blatantly serious with you. If you had indeed asked her for an e-mail or an AIM address, all of your conversations over the internet would start out great. You'd learn more about her, and she'd learn more about you. Then, they would start diminishing, and sometimes, to replenish conversation, sometimes arguments or debates occur, over petty, stupid things. Eventually there would be times where you see her on your buddy list, and see if she says anything first, but nothing comes, so you IM her, thinking she's probably doing homework or something. You guys say "Hi" to each other, you might try to strike a conversation with some sort of topic, and a reply would come 3 minutes later. There is so much more I could add. I guess the bottomline is, it wouldn't have worked out. You both are too young. Now, if you guys meet again at the age of 21 or so, things could definately work out. You'd probably be more depressed in 2 months than you are now if you had kept in touch with her, if you still cling to her at that time. Now, about this quitting drinking business. I suppose you're going to have a lot of fun watching Times Square by yourself on New Years Eve in your 20s, while EVERYONE you know is drinking, partying, and having a good time. Rarely do you want to be the only sober one at the party, and being a designated driver must be a huge pain in the ass. What about your birthdays too? Your friends are gonna want to take you to a strip club and drink some booze, and you'll say no to them? What would they think of you then, as the biggest wimp they've ever known. Do what you want, but you may regret never drinking again. I'm sorry if I seemed a bit fierce in my post, but I had to say this to you. A freaking MEN. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen Prawn Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I'll chime in, too. Most I know met from a setup or at the workplace. Now-a-days, work is the #1 place to meet a spouse. Jim and I met at work... Brian and I met at yahoo personals...but if you ask his family or friends we met at a party (my family and friends know where we really met). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I met my wife at a HS basketball game Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sox4lifeinPA Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I'll chime in, too. Most I know met from a setup or at the workplace. Now-a-days, work is the #1 place to meet a spouse. Jim and I met at work... I didn't think they allowed dancer/customer interactions??? (can I hear an oooooooooh snap??) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest williestokes Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Youre right PA. I was a little out of it last night and the drinking idea was harsh. Ill still lay off the porn, masturbation and drugs but drinking in moderation is ok, I guess. I still really miss Laura and no matter what Ill always remember her. I guess the best way to do that is to be how she would have wanted, that is, happy. Is Penn State really like that? Are the girls cute AND nice? Here, theyre cute (well, some of em) but theyre either snotty, emotionaless or insincere ("How was your day?" "s***ty." "Thats wonderful."). Some day Ill find another Laura, I just gotta be patient. And hopefully Ill be able to hold onto that one. Oh, what yahtzeesox said was good advice too. Long distance relationships dont work. Instead of regretting not being able to keep in touch, Ill just treasure the time spent with her and never forget her. I hope shes doing the same of me as well. Nuff said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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