Texsox Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 No-Strings-Attached Sex Can friends with benefits-- or bed buddies -- really benefit both parties, or is there usually unexpected emotional fallout? By Gina Shaw WebMD Feature Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD During Julia's junior year in college, she met a great guy. But she didn't want to date him. "I was at the end of another relationship that had been really good. So I don't think I was psychologically ready to get involved again and at the same time, I was pretty horny," she recalls. The Link to a Web MD article Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gene Honda Civic Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 usually unexpected emotional fallout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperSteve Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 usually unexpected emotional fallout Actually, you'd be surprised. When you and your 'friend' both understand what is going on, there is no problems generally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texsox Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 Many voters, not many comments. Would those that say no reject on moral grounds, physical health, psychological health, combination of all 3? Now when she says she still wants to be friends, it might not be such a bad thing. Do you think this is easier at 20? 40? 60? 80? What would your reaction be if it was your Mom? Grandpa? Daughter? Pastor? Mod? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperSteve Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 What would your reaction be if it was your Mom? Grandpa? Daughter? Pastor? Mod? Ya can't go from talking about sex more or less to our parents. :headshake Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texsox Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 I am just thinking it is probably easier at 40 or 60 than 20. That puts it into the parent age. I saw you mom last night with some guy named SuperSteve, is that her new boyfriend? No, that's her bed buddy. She calls him up when she gets tense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Why not. If you have a friend and neither are looking for more I say why not. Isn't it better then a one night stand??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aboz56 Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Yes it can work and yes it can get ugly. I've experienced both extremes and the former is much more enjoyable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soxfan420 Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Isn't it better then a one night stand??? yup, thats my thought exactly. why not??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gene Honda Civic Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Yes it can work and yes it can get ugly. I've experienced both extremes and the former is much more enjoyable. Aboz is right... I've been on both sides... Either way, somebody's going to wind up waning more out of the relationship than the other. No matter what, even if both are still "just friends", one may want the other to accompany them to a social function, i.e. a wedding, one of them will no doubt feel this assumption falls outside the bounds of a "friends" relationship. I'm fairly impressed with how I expressed myself while completely s***faced. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YASNY Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 If neither person is involved in another relationship and both parties know that that's what is, then I see nothing wrong with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mathew Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 I am surprised with the results, but would expect that my vote is very much male and irresponsible slanted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mreye Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YASNY Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.? Who said anything about irresponsible sex? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wong & Owens Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.? If you are smart about it, it's a non-issue. Sure, birth control isn't 100% guaranteed, but nothing in life is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mreye Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 If you are smart about it, it's a non-issue. Sure, birth control isn't 100% guaranteed, but nothing in life is. I know something that is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 I know something that is. The Cubs SUCK? :fthecubs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mreye Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 The Cubs SUCK? :fthecubs That too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Be Good Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Yes I would, but I havent yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texsox Posted March 10, 2004 Author Share Posted March 10, 2004 Damn, I sure would like to know how the young woman sitting across from me would answer that I am beginning to see why the public internet access area here is so popular. Toss in a couple wide screens and a bar and I might never leave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.? My thought is, that your obviously friends with the person, your just not looking for a relationship. You know the person enough that you know at least a bit of their sexual background. To me, like I said earlier, thats way better then a one night stand. Like I've always said, the only one night stands I could see having (Minus somehow getting Brittney Spears or someone like that, lol) would be with a friend. I've had one or two friends with benefits type relationships. Like Cheat and Boz said, sometimes it doesn't work out, but its still kind of a no pressure type situation and pretty enjoyable. But usually one person ends up wanting more or what not and its hard to have a friendship last after that, but it also depends on the people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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