jackie hayes Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 I don't know about all this "be yourself" bs. I've tried that, but I keep getting the strong impression that my girlfriend would rather I was Jude Law. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 For me its always opening myself up to the girl when your first going out. When I first know someone I'm insanely shy, but the more I know them the more they get to know the real me. However, right now, the hardest thing for me has to be communication because the current girl I'm going out with and I go to different schools and don't really live that close to each other. And to make it harder I'm not one of those people that enjoys talking on the phone for hours at a time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sox4lifeinPA Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 The Hardest Part of a Relationship, What is it? me? it had to be said Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hawaiisoxfn Posted October 27, 2004 Share Posted October 27, 2004 For me its always opening myself up to the girl when your first going out. When I first know someone I'm insanely shy, but the more I know them the more they get to know the real me. However, right now, the hardest thing for me has to be communication because the current girl I'm going out with and I go to different schools and don't really live that close to each other. And to make it harder I'm not one of those people that enjoys talking on the phone for hours at a time. I dont like talking on the phone for hours on end either. When you talk to a girl in person, if theres ever a moment when youre thinking of something to say, you can smile at her, caress her hand or give some other kind of body language. But on the phone, youll run out of things to say and there will be absolute silence. Then you can start to hear her TV in the background or some s*** like that, while you panic trying to break the silence. I dont like that at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnB Posted October 27, 2004 Share Posted October 27, 2004 I dont like talking on the phone for hours on end either. When you talk to a girl in person, if theres ever a moment when youre thinking of something to say, you can smile at her, caress her hand or give some other kind of body language. But on the phone, youll run out of things to say and there will be absolute silence. Then you can start to hear her TV in the background or some s*** like that, while you panic trying to break the silence. I dont like that at all. at the beginning of a relationship...it kinda sucks. but after awhile, conversation becomes so much more easier, and if you don't have anything to talk about...she won't really care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hawaiisoxfn Posted October 27, 2004 Share Posted October 27, 2004 at the beginning of a relationship...it kinda sucks. but after awhile, conversation becomes so much more easier, and if you don't have anything to talk about...she won't really care. Thats kind of what I was getting at. Once you get comfortable with a girl, those moments of silence, if they even happen, arent so bad. But when youre first trying to hook up, its not cool at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Beast Posted October 27, 2004 Share Posted October 27, 2004 To be honest with you all, for me its getting over the fact that the quote "Being friends first is better," is really not true. Its not, I mean from what I understand is that when you are friends first, they probably will not go out with you because they see you as a good friend material, not boy friend material, though you know you could be better than any guy in that department. Being yourself is a must...my ex gf wouldn't let me be that way...it seemed as though I always had to be romantic to please her. I can be a sweet guy to a point, but in a relationship I need to have some fun too... Communication is key in a relationship. I am a quiet guy, so a lot of times I need the girl to talk. Thats why I always try for a talkative chick...and I also need to notice when they talk to other guys what is and what is not flirting... I'm really expecting cubssuck1 to ask me about this post tomarrow... Something like this "eh, its the Meister...how do you feel about your post." then he'll say a follow up question, just like a reporter does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1549 Posted October 27, 2004 Author Share Posted October 27, 2004 To be honest with you all, for me its getting over the fact that the quote "Being friends first is better," is really not true. Its not, I mean from what I understand is that when you are friends first, they probably will not go out with you because they see you as a good friend material, not boy friend material, though you know you could be better than any guy in that department. Being yourself is a must...my ex gf wouldn't let me be that way...it seemed as though I always had to be romantic to please her. I can be a sweet guy to a point, but in a relationship I need to have some fun too... Communication is key in a relationship. I am a quiet guy, so a lot of times I need the girl to talk. Thats why I always try for a talkative chick...and I also need to notice when they talk to other guys what is and what is not flirting... I'm really expecting cubssuck1 to ask me about this post tomarrow... Something like this "eh, its the Meister...how do you feel about your post." then he'll say a follow up question, just like a reporter does. I have been friends with my girlfriend since freshman year. I have found out she had an off and on crush on me during that time period. I was obviously completely oblivious Anyway, now...2 months into senior year I am going out with her. So, the whole friends first thing can work. However, it didn't stop me from turning shy and extra nice. I am glad to report however, that I am coming out of this stage and the real rob is coming through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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