Bmr31 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 Im seriously getting pissed about this work thing..........anyone who feels they have knowledge, please let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerbaho-WG Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 Define work thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LowerCaseRepublican Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 I heard he's a real fine "law talking guy". In reality though, CWSox seems to have some knowledge of law and may be the best person on here to ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cwsox Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 Im seriously getting pissed about this work thing..........anyone who feels they have knowledge, please let me know. bmr, for a work thing, the laws (statutory, case, and regulatory) in each state vary. And it gets very intricate. So you'd want to talk to a lawyer who specializes in employment law. Most time the attorney will talk to you no charge the first consultation to determine if you have a case. Check your state bar's website for specialists in employment law and call around to make sure they give you a free first visit. In our office we would not take the case, we would refer you on in an attorney who specializes in employment law. Good luck. From what little I know from your posts you may have a claim. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 13, 2003 Author Share Posted July 13, 2003 bmr, for a work thing, the laws (statutory, case, and regulatory) in each state vary. And it gets very intricate. So you'd want to talk to a lawyer who specializes in employment law. Most time the attorney will talk to you no charge the first consultation to determine if you have a case. Check your state bar's website for specialists in employment law and call around to make sure they give you a free first visit. In our office we would not take the case, we would refer you on in an attorney who specializes in employment law. Good luck. From what little I know from your posts you may have a claim. Yeah well something else happened that made me think i need to talk to one....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest wsc425 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 I know a fellow who is good with law, and I see him practically everyday. If you could send me the information on your case, I could talk to him and see what i could do with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hotsoxchick1 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 I know a fellow who is good with law, and I see him practically everyday. If you could send me the information on your case, I could talk to him and see what i could do with it. i dont know it sounds fishy to me......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cwsox Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 bmr, for a work thing, the laws (statutory, case, and regulatory) in each state vary. And it gets very intricate. So you'd want to talk to a lawyer who specializes in employment law. Most time the attorney will talk to you no charge the first consultation to determine if you have a case. Check your state bar's website for specialists in employment law and call around to make sure they give you a free first visit. In our office we would not take the case, we would refer you on in an attorney who specializes in employment law. Good luck. From what little I know from your posts you may have a claim. Yeah well something else happened that made me think i need to talk to one....... then go for it - check it out with a specialist - you owe it to yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SI1020 Posted July 13, 2003 Share Posted July 13, 2003 Did your firm have written guidelines on the hiring and termination of employees? If they do, are they in conflict or accordane with the laws of your state? Did they follow their written guidelines when they terminated you? I'm not trying to steal anybodys thunder here, but I think these questions are very important in your case. That and listen to what CW said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 13, 2003 Author Share Posted July 13, 2003 Did your firm have written guidelines on the hiring and termination of employees? If they do, are they in conflict or accordane with the laws of your state? Did they follow their written guidelines when they terminated you? I'm not trying to steal anybodys thunder here, but I think these questions are very important in your case. That and listen to what CW said. I wasnt terminated. I was forced to resign. It doesnt matter though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steff Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Jim and I were (and kinda still are) in a similar situation. Since the company was bought by the agents they have been assholes. In the begining there was a lot of rumors, etc.. then at the convention there was a lot of concrete evidence people were talking s***. They wanted me to quit BAD, because they knew if they fired me they were in some deep s***. Finally I went to HR and told them that I felt "uncomfortable" at work and that unless the BS quit there was going to be some trouble (for the record I did not say it like that I was very professional about the entire thing). I did talk to an attny and I was told flat out that since there was no policy on dating co-workers unless you reported directly to them or vice versa that just me being "uncomfortable" was enough to file a suit against them. I didn't. I like my job and there really was no point - just money and they never would have apologized which is what I wanted. But I could have had their asses. Go talk to one regardless. IMO, you should have even without something else happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 14, 2003 Author Share Posted July 14, 2003 Jim and I were (and kinda still are) in a similar situation. Since the company was bought by the agents they have been assholes. In the begining there was a lot of rumors, etc.. then at the convention there was a lot of concrete evidence people were talking s***. They wanted me to quit BAD, because they knew if they fired me they were in some deep s***. Finally I went to HR and told them that I felt "uncomfortable" at work and that unless the BS quit there was going to be some trouble (for the record I did not say it like that I was very professional about the entire thing). I did talk to an attny and I was told flat out that since there was no policy on dating co-workers unless you reported directly to them or vice versa that just me being "uncomfortable" was enough to file a suit against them. I didn't. I like my job and there really was no point - just money and they never would have apologized which is what I wanted. But I could have had their asses. Go talk to one regardless. IMO, you should have even without something else happening. Well from what i read, the one thing you had on them is them wanting you to quit. I lost my job for 3 reasons basically. I dated someone who worked for me, i wanted her to quit because of it and i theatened her after she had threatened to turn me in. Alll 3 are shady to me. One, the policy states that dating is DISCOURAGED. Two i wanted her to quit because the policy states that if we dont stop dating, one of us would need to quit. Three, i threatened her only because she had threatened to get me fired. Now, after i was gonna let it go, I heard that im being slandered by the guy who is running the store now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steff Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Well from what i read, the one thing you had on them is them wanting you to quit. I lost my job for 3 reasons basically. I dated someone who worked for me, i wanted her to quit because of it and i theatened her after she had threatened to turn me in. Alll 3 are shady to me. One, the policy states that dating is DISCOURAGED. Two i wanted her to quit because the policy states that if we dont stop dating, one of us would need to quit. Three, i threatened her only because she had threatened to get me fired. Now, after i was gonna let it go, I heard that im being slandered by the guy who is running the store now. They wanted me to quit.. you were forced to resign... isn't that the same thing..? And my case was NOTHING because they "wanted" me fired. Anyone can want anyone fired. It was because they were defimating me. And it was while employed. And it did effect my job and the way agents treated me. And I had agents willing to testify for me. So really unless what is being said is effecting you personally (from getting another job, bad rep in the workforce, etc..) you might not have a case anyway. Regardless, talk to someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDF Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Well from what i read, the one thing you had on them is them wanting you to quit. I lost my job for 3 reasons basically. I dated someone who worked for me, i wanted her to quit because of it and i theatened her after she had threatened to turn me in. Alll 3 are shady to me. One, the policy states that dating is DISCOURAGED. Two i wanted her to quit because the policy states that if we dont stop dating, one of us would need to quit. Three, i threatened her only because she had threatened to get me fired. Now, after i was gonna let it go, I heard that im being slandered by the guy who is running the store now. slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steff Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. Exactly LDF. Unless you can prove that it's effecting you in some adverse way, there might be little you can do about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clujer420 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 I dated someone who worked for me , that was mistake 1, 2, and 3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 14, 2003 Author Share Posted July 14, 2003 , that was mistake 1, 2, and 3. Dude im a little more knowledgable about the whole experience than you. To respond to your post, DUH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 14, 2003 Author Share Posted July 14, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clujer420 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 Dude im a little more knowledgable about the whole experience than you. To respond to your post, DUH! Well all I can comment on is what you've said about the "whole experience" on this board. OBVIOUSLY you're going to have more knowledge about it that I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDF Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. well, i was leading up to a situation that might help, but i guess you don't want it. then i wonder why you were posting here and telling us all of this in the first place. you are the one who is whinning and crying about it. i needed a little more info that is why i asked the last question, b/c that might be where you can save yourself. btw you were the one who mention slander in the first place, in addition i have many yrs of working with lawsuits of one case or another esp dealing with someone who was wronged in the workforce. oh well, i will stop reading this post and yeah good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hotsoxchick1 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 just go get a frickin lawyer and talk to him or her and see what you can do... no one here has a law degree or a plate with thier name hangin out side their doors........let the legal experts tell ya what you can and can not do............ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clujer420 Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. You should have known ahead of time that dating a co-worker and/or employee is a bad, bad, bad, bad idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bmr31 Posted July 14, 2003 Author Share Posted July 14, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. well, i was leading up to a situation that might help, but i guess you don't want it. then i wonder why you were posting here and telling us all of this in the first place. you are the one who is whinning and crying about it. i needed a little more info that is why i asked the last question, b/c that might be where you can save yourself. btw you were the one who mention slander in the first place, in addition i have many yrs of working with lawsuits of one case or another esp dealing with someone who was wronged in the workforce. oh well, i will stop reading this post and yeah good luck. Stop being so sensitive ldf. You have a right to read and respond, and so do i...........and to answer your question yeah she has proof to the threat because she set me up online and got me to halfway admit i said it and also, i admitted to it with my boss. I doubt i am even going to a lawyer. Im not whining and crying, i was trying to find someone who is very knowledgable about these cases. The last thing I need is for someone to tell me what ive done wrong. Ive beat myself up over my wrongs more than anyone else in the world could do, believe me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steff Posted July 15, 2003 Share Posted July 15, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. You should have known ahead of time that dating a co-worker and/or employee is a bad, bad, bad, bad idea. Stupid stereotype. Jim and I have a wonderful relationship and the bumps that others "tried" to put in the way made us laugh. Bmr's experience seems to be more of the ex being a b****. Not all work relationships end up that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clujer420 Posted July 15, 2003 Share Posted July 15, 2003 slander is hard to prove by the defination of the law. other than that you are between a rock and a hard place. you should have never done 2 and 3. is there evidence of #3? People i said experts. I dont need people to point out the mistakes i have made. Ummm i think i am well aware of those okay? Jesus.. You should have known ahead of time that dating a co-worker and/or employee is a bad, bad, bad, bad idea. Stupid stereotype. Jim and I have a wonderful relationship and the bumps that others "tried" to put in the way made us laugh. Bmr's experience seems to be more of the ex being a b****. Not all work relationships end up that way. Did I say all? Christ. IN GENERAL, dating someone that you work with is a horrible idea. Happy now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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