Bob Sacamano Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 (edited) On 3/23/2019 at 11:41 PM, ChiliIrishHammock24 said: Just signed an offer for a house with my girlfriend....so....you could say things are getting pretty serious. ? EDIT: Offer accepted. As someone who is also looking to buy a place and dealing with a seller's market and the frustration of losing multiple offers (one of my friends is currently calling me Jerry lol), I feel like we need a separate thread for this lol Edited March 25, 2019 by soxfan2014 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg775 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 On 3/23/2019 at 11:41 PM, ChiliIrishHammock24 said: Just signed an offer for a house with my girlfriend....so....you could say things are getting pretty serious. ? EDIT: Offer accepted. Tell us more, Chili. Is this that younger woman you wanted to date? You are da man, Chili. Hope to see u at the Sox game(s) I attend this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiliIrishHammock24 Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 11 hours ago, soxfan2014 said: As someone who is also looking to buy a place and dealing with a seller's market and the frustration of losing multiple offers (one of my friends is currently calling me Jerry lol), I feel like we need a separate thread for this lol In the same neighborhood as the house we just got, we got screwed over by the seller lying to us and telling us there were no showings, and we would be the first people to see the place the following day, only to find out they DID have showings the night before, and even accepted an offer from those showings before we even had a chance to see the place. So my girlfriend is still salty about it and keeps trying to compare our place to that other house, even though we never even saw it, it was "perfect" in her mind based off the pictures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiliIrishHammock24 Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 6 hours ago, greg775 said: Tell us more, Chili. Is this that younger woman you wanted to date? You are da man, Chili. Hope to see u at the Sox game(s) I attend this year. Lol no. I "dated" that girl for a month and that was a few years ago. I dated a few different girls since that one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2nd_city_saint787 Posted March 31, 2019 Share Posted March 31, 2019 Has anyone dated a girl with depression and anxiety before? Been dating this girl for a year and a half, I'm so in love, but sometimes her mental illness just makes things so fucking hard!. We had long talked about getting married. A few months ago we looked at engagement rings and i ended up coming back and getting the one she really liked. A few weeks later, i purposed...she said yes......Since then, to my dismay, things have been incredibly rocky. She has admitted to having cold feet, we don't have sex, we don't talk as much, the passion has become non existent, she wants more alone time, all this shit. She says she still loves me and still wants everything we had talked about, but her mental issues are making her this way. How do i cope? I love this girl, but it's really been hard since i myself have anxiety. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Sacamano Posted March 31, 2019 Share Posted March 31, 2019 28 minutes ago, 2nd_city_saint787 said: Has anyone dated a girl with depression and anxiety before? Been dating this girl for a year and a half, I'm so in love, but sometimes her mental illness just makes things so fucking hard!. We had long talked about getting married. A few months ago we looked at engagement rings and i ended up coming back and getting the one she really liked. A few weeks later, i purposed...she said yes......Since then, to my dismay, things have been incredibly rocky. She has admitted to having cold feet, we don't have sex, we don't talk as much, the passion has become non existent, she wants more alone time, all this shit. She says she still loves me and still wants everything we had talked about, but her mental issues are making her this way. How do i cope? I love this girl, but it's really been hard since i myself have anxiety. Is she seeing anyone that can prescribe her meds to help balance her out? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2nd_city_saint787 Posted March 31, 2019 Share Posted March 31, 2019 6 hours ago, soxfan2014 said: Is she seeing anyone that can prescribe her meds to help balance her out? She was. Then stopped because things were so good for so long. Things were still good for some time but now the last few months have been rough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg775 Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 (edited) 9 hours ago, 2nd_city_saint787 said: Has anyone dated a girl with depression and anxiety before? Been dating this girl for a year and a half, I'm so in love, but sometimes her mental illness just makes things so fucking hard!. We had long talked about getting married. A few months ago we looked at engagement rings and i ended up coming back and getting the one she really liked. A few weeks later, i purposed...she said yes......Since then, to my dismay, things have been incredibly rocky. She has admitted to having cold feet, we don't have sex, we don't talk as much, the passion has become non existent, she wants more alone time, all this shit. She says she still loves me and still wants everything we had talked about, but her mental issues are making her this way. How do i cope? I love this girl, but it's really been hard since i myself have anxiety. Second city, I don't know if you are a believer but I'll pray for you and your GF. I am concerned about your situation and urge caution in getting married for a while. A GREAT friend of mine married a woman with depression and anxiety and they got an anullment within 2 months because of the horrible situation the anxiety/depression caused. I know you love her because you said you do, but I preach caution in tying the knot. Have you set a date? My friend got married despite the problems and simply had to get the annulment despite loving her. He married another woman just a year later and they are happy with a child. I'm not applauding the situation as the woman with the anxiety did not want to break up the marriage but he felt strongly he needed the annulment. The woman with the anxiety is doing better as well which pleases me! Good luck second city. Edited April 1, 2019 by greg775 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G&T Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 14 hours ago, 2nd_city_saint787 said: She was. Then stopped because things were so good for so long. Things were still good for some time but now the last few months have been rough. The first thing you need to do is talk to her about the changes and that she needs to go back to get help. That's a hard conversation but she needs to hear it. Speaking personally, I was just recently diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder. I've had depression in the past, and the two are linked. It sucks, but I wasted no time getting on meds (which are pretty awesome) and I'm looking for a therapist. These things happen and shouldn't be a big deal to anyone. Getting help is important and should be treated like a broken bone. For whatever reason, depression always felt like a thing I should just fight on my own. But the panic disorder became impossible to ignore or fight. Being honest with myself has been liberating in a sense and I know that it will make me a better husband and father. If you also suffer from anxiety, it might help to see a relationship counselor. I never would have done this when I was younger, but experience has a way of changing perspectives. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigruss Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 My college girlfriend was dealing with anxiety, I quickly learned you need to lean on the professionals for dealing with that. Be there for her, but also make sure she is really getting professional help, unfortunately you can't replace that level of support and it's really needed. Also, getting off meds seems like a really bad idea unless the doctor/therapist was ok with it. It was probably going great because of the impact the meds had. Finally, I would tell her that you are there for her, but she needs to see professional help, and once she does to reach back out to you when she is ready. If she wants space I would give it to her, just make sure she is actually seeing the doc. Hopefully she gets better and realizes that it was the depression coming back that changed things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2nd_city_saint787 Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 (edited) Yeah, i laid there in bed last night just staring at her trying to work up the nerve to suggest her going back to get help. The problem with giving her space and just letting go is we live together and I've got no life. Lol. I told her i would take up golf ever Sunday when the weather turns. We have been saving to get a new place, and still talks about it. I would hate to just use that money on a rental(because im still working on my credit), but it may be whats best. She knows I'm there for her. I do everything i can to give her the best life possible. Edited April 1, 2019 by 2nd_city_saint787 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg775 Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 11 hours ago, 2nd_city_saint787 said: She knows I'm there for her. I do everything i can to give her the best life possible. You are a great great person! Thing is you don't have to get married to be her friend forever. Of course you may want to marry her no matter what. Bless u second city saint. You sound like a true saint! Greg's advice is proceed with caution as far as marriage even if it's an unpopular form of advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Parkman Posted May 23, 2019 Share Posted May 23, 2019 (edited) Ok so update: I've done the online dating thing, paid too much money to use it, and have had no response whatsoever. I'm wondering if there are some shared interest event things that are unaffiliated with a dating site that I could go to to meet women. I'm running out of ideas because most of the "old fashioned " ways of meeting people are too weird for me or it is too late in life for me to meet someone like that. Like if I went to a bar or something I'd have no idea what to talk about, mostly because I don't really work. (Idrive Uber occasionally) Edited May 23, 2019 by Jack Parkman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pettie4sox Posted May 31, 2019 Share Posted May 31, 2019 On 5/23/2019 at 1:41 AM, Jack Parkman said: Ok so update: I've done the online dating thing, paid too much money to use it, and have had no response whatsoever. I'm wondering if there are some shared interest event things that are unaffiliated with a dating site that I could go to to meet women. I'm running out of ideas because most of the "old fashioned " ways of meeting people are too weird for me or it is too late in life for me to meet someone like that. Like if I went to a bar or something I'd have no idea what to talk about, mostly because I don't really work. (Idrive Uber occasionally) Dating no matter if it's online or organic is a grind. I'm not saying you in particular but people have tendency to want instant gratification. Dating requires a lot of elements to come together in harmony to be successful. First, you need two honest genuine people looking on the same wavelength. Next the timing has to be right for both parties and lastly someone has to the aggressor. I've seen a load of relationships fizzle because both are too idle to make moves, one party thinks the other party is not interested and then poof, nothing happens. Here's a thought, try "meetme" and go to some events that cater to your hobbies. They are genuine social gatherings that could turn into something if you play your cards right. Not everyone at this event will be looking to date but you could make some friendships and that could lead to other things. Don't give up man, there is someone out there for anyone. There are too many people on the earth for people to single and lonely their whole lives if they truly desire companionship that is. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiliIrishHammock24 Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 Just bought a ring. Proposing on Sunday. ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoxAce Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 (edited) 13 minutes ago, ChiliIrishHammock24 said: Just bought a ring. Proposing on Sunday. ? Nice man! I'm sure you'll hear the answer you need to hear (I won't jinx it). Edited October 16, 2019 by SoxAce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 11 hours ago, ChiliIrishHammock24 said: Just bought a ring. Proposing on Sunday. ? Exciting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiliIrishHammock24 Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 22 hours ago, SoxAce said: Nice man! I'm sure you'll hear the answer you need to hear (I won't jinx it). Oh man, if I waited any longer, she would have proposed to me. Not that we've been dating very long, a bit over 2 years, but she's way more than ready to start popping out kiddos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg775 Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Is it true the latest generation and the Millennials don't want to marry? Or not. Congrats chili on your engagement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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SoxAce Posted October 21, 2019 Share Posted October 21, 2019 Congrats Joe! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisox378 Posted November 25, 2019 Share Posted November 25, 2019 Listen to this video. This is the Traditional Catholic way to Court a women/man. It may be hard in this day and age but believe me its worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyyle23 Posted November 27, 2019 Share Posted November 27, 2019 thank you for reminding me why I left the church 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Posted November 27, 2019 Share Posted November 27, 2019 4 minutes ago, Kyyle23 said: thank you for reminding me why I left the church Hopefully you didn’t waste 45 minutes of your life. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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