Relationship Advice Thread

[Heads22]

It sucks that Ames is about 80% guys.

[iamshack]

It sucks that Ames is about 80% guys.

Why? You like a challenge, don't you?

[nitetrain8601]

I figure I should clarify this a bit.

 

Talking about the same girl originally, I've taken the advice to some extent, but I've still been hanging out with her quite a bit, and everything was going great. It felt like we were moving in the right direction and everything was going swimmingly, and it felt like we were back together. Then on Thursday, she drops this "I like being single and being able to flirt" line, and I got pissed. So I basically just followed this other girl home, and we talked for a while, and then started making out. Called her up last night again after the original girl was ignoring me, and we made out, some clothes came off, and we did basically everything other than f***.

 

I'm OK with moving on, but I just did it poorly, and I feel terrible about it. I don't even care about this girl, and I care so much about the other. I'm stuck in this idealistic romantic mindset that me and the original girl will get everything worked out, we'll get hitched and ride into the sunset on a white horse. I was just confused, and now I'm depressed too.

 

This is good. In the meantime, keep this girl who you're making out with, at least on the side. Honestly, it's going to take some time to get the original girl off of your mind. At the same time, she's going to say and do s*** that'll make you say, "Wow, this is how you really are" now that you are outside of the relationship zone with this girl.

 

You may think you love her and she just needs time to see that she loves you. It ain't going to work that way though. She's gonna slut around and come to you when she feels lonely, she's drunk, or she gets rejected until you flat out don't allow it.

[iamshack]

Yeah I know. It just sucks right now.

Well, if it makes you feel any better Blake, we are in the same boat now. Just broke up with my girlfriend as well...

 

[witesoxfan]

Well, if it makes you feel any better Blake, we are in the same boat now. Just broke up with my girlfriend as well...

 

 

Yeah, that doesn't make me feel better. I may be sadistic and narcissistic, but I don't take pleasure in others losses. Sorry to hear about it.

 

Maybe we should just go clubbing together

[knightni]

Maybe we should just go clubbing together

 

Why is this in my head now?

 

[SoxAce]

It sucks that Ames is about 80% guys.

 

It also sucks that your hot roommate is like a sister to you.

[Kyyle23]

Well, if it makes you feel any better Blake, we are in the same boat now. Just broke up with my girlfriend as well...

 

 

So the broken down car situation was just the start huh?

[iamshack]

So the broken down car situation was just the start huh?

I don't know...I actually thought the car situation was helping things in a weird way, because I was picking her up every day and we seemed to be getting along better than ever as a result of actually being around eachother more and dealing with an adverse situation. I know her kids were happy to get to see me a couple extra times during the week too.

 

Saturday night we went out for dinner, and I was just put in an absolutely impossible situation, and it ruined our evening. Then Sunday there was just more bad news about her vehicle, and as much as I understand she is under stress because of it, I realized I just can't be treated poorly because she happens to have a stressful life.

 

We had a long talk and it just sort of confirmed some of the things I thought were happening. I don't know how I am going to do it, but I think I've just got to let her go for a while. Sucks, but I just think I'm supposed to be happier if I am with someone I really care about this much...

[iWiN4PreP]

Okay I have this problem:

 

I am 20 years old, I play alot of basketball - Other day I met this girl playing basketball (she is only 16, but she was cool/pretty).

 

First time meeting her for an hour, next 2 days we are talking like crazy, and she is kinda.... Advancing to say the least. We barely know each other and shes wanting to make out / kiss etc.

 

For one do you think that age difference is to much? Kinda whack.

For 2 what would you do?

And for 3 is there something wrong with my head that im even remotely possible to liking some1 this young at my age??

 

 

[G&T]

Okay I have this problem:

 

I am 20 years old, I play alot of basketball - Other day I met this girl playing basketball (she is only 16, but she was cool/pretty).

 

First time meeting her for an hour, next 2 days we are talking like crazy, and she is kinda.... Advancing to say the least. We barely know each other and shes wanting to make out / kiss etc.

 

For one do you think that age difference is to much? Kinda whack.

For 2 what would you do?

And for 3 is there something wrong with my head that im even remotely possible to liking some1 this young at my age??

 

Kinda whack? It's illegal to have any sexual contact with her in most states. You know there is something wrong with a relationship when you have to check the statutes.

 

You need to hang out with people your own age...er at least 18.

Edited March 1, 2010 by G&T

[Kyyle23]

I don't know...I actually thought the car situation was helping things in a weird way, because I was picking her up every day and we seemed to be getting along better than ever as a result of actually being around eachother more and dealing with an adverse situation. I know her kids were happy to get to see me a couple extra times during the week too.

 

Saturday night we went out for dinner, and I was just put in an absolutely impossible situation, and it ruined our evening. Then Sunday there was just more bad news about her vehicle, and as much as I understand she is under stress because of it, I realized I just can't be treated poorly because she happens to have a stressful life.

 

We had a long talk and it just sort of confirmed some of the things I thought were happening. I don't know how I am going to do it, but I think I've just got to let her go for a while. Sucks, but I just think I'm supposed to be happier if I am with someone I really care about this much...

 

Sometimes a break is good. Even a forced break.

[Kyyle23]

Okay I have this problem:

 

I am 20 years old, I play alot of basketball - Other day I met this girl playing basketball (she is only 16, but she was cool/pretty).

 

First time meeting her for an hour, next 2 days we are talking like crazy, and she is kinda.... Advancing to say the least. We barely know each other and shes wanting to make out / kiss etc.

 

For one do you think that age difference is to much? Kinda whack.

For 2 what would you do?

And for 3 is there something wrong with my head that im even remotely possible to liking some1 this young at my age??

 

Stay away.

[iamshack]

Sometimes a break is good. Even a forced break.

Yeah, we'll see. It's going to be very difficult because we were very good friends before we started dating, and we sort of depend on one another because of our individual situations. I think she's going to realize just how much I make her life proceed more smoothly, but that, in and of itself, is not reason enough for this to resume.

[Kyyle23]

Yeah, we'll see. It's going to be very difficult because we were very good friends before we started dating, and we sort of depend on one another because of our individual situations. I think she's going to realize just how much I make her life proceed more smoothly, but that, in and of itself, is not reason enough for this to resume.

 

If its about convenience, then yeah, you guys are done

[iamshack]

If its about convenience, then yeah, you guys are done

I don't think it is about convenience; she has a line a mile long of dudes that would love to date her. I guess what I was saying was that I treated her so well that I think she took me for granted at times, and will just now realize the depth of just how much I do for her. That will probably lead her back to me.

 

I dunno; it is a complex situation. I'm not really even sure she should be dating right now to be honest.

 

Thanks for the advice though.

[knightni]

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_age_...ent_in_Illinois

[Kyyle23]

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_age_...ent_in_Illinois

 

Cryptvile is in FL, does it still apply?

[iamshack]

In Florida, women at the age of 16 or higher can consent to sexual relations with men between the ages of 16-24.

 

794.05 Unlawful sexual activity with certain minors.--

 

(1) A person 24 years of age or older who engages in sexual activity with a person 16 or 17 years of age commits a felony of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084. As used in this section, "sexual activity" means oral, anal, or vaginal penetration by, or union with, the sexual organ of another; however, sexual activity does not include an act done for a bona fide medical purpose.

 

 

[nitetrain8601]

20/2 = 10

10 + 7 = 17

 

17 > 16.

 

That mean's she's a no go. Maybe in a year or two Crypt.

[GoodAsGould]

Okay I have this problem:

 

I am 20 years old, I play alot of basketball - Other day I met this girl playing basketball (she is only 16, but she was cool/pretty).

 

First time meeting her for an hour, next 2 days we are talking like crazy, and she is kinda.... Advancing to say the least. We barely know each other and shes wanting to make out / kiss etc.

 

For one do you think that age difference is to much? Kinda whack.

For 2 what would you do?

And for 3 is there something wrong with my head that im even remotely possible to liking some1 this young at my age??

 

 

Well if you find her attractive and like her personality its fine as long as your willing to put off sex for a couple of years. Its only a 4 year gap which really isnt all that much, would be like dating a freshmen if you were a senior.

[iamshack]

Well if you find her attractive and like her personality its fine as long as your willing to put off sex for a couple of years. Its only a 4 year gap which really isnt all that much, would be like dating a freshmen if you were a senior.

Actually, from the way Florida law reads, it appears with her consent they can have all the sex they want.

[G&T]

20/2 = 10

10 + 7 = 17

 

17 > 16.

 

That mean's she's a no go. Maybe in a year or two Crypt.

 

What is this?

[knightni]

In Florida, women at the age of 16 or higher can consent to sexual relations with men between the ages of 16-24.

So, he should be okay then.

[RockRaines]

What is this?

raper math.