Jenksismyhero Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 I don't, but that's an argument I did not win with my wife. I despise sitting around a pool or the beach for the day. If i'm on vacation I want to see/experience things I haven't in the past. Laying around for 8 hours, while in theory sounds great, is torture to me. Boredom sets in within the hour. My wife didn't think it would be right to go on a honeymoon and then spend a day apart. So we didn't. I compromised and sat on the beach for a half day, and then we went and did something else. No golf, unfortunately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamshack Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Well, I guess I am lucky then...I asked if she minded and she said not at all. She'll probably enjoy it more than me, to be honest. Imagine being stuck with me for 6 straight days... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 QUOTE (iamshack @ Apr 21, 2014 -> 02:21 PM) Seriously though, do you guys think that is selfish of me, to play golf? She has said she wants to lay on the beach all day anyways for the honeymoon. You know the relationship better than any of us. If she is really OK with it, go for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farmteam Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Congrats, Shack! Have fun, bud! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chisoxfn Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Congrats Shack. Have a blast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigHurt3515 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Is there a best time of the year to buy engagement rings? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IlliniKrush Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (BigHurt3515 @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 12:18 AM) Is there a best time of the year to buy engagement rings? When you're feeling particularly rich. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigHurt3515 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 12:55 AM) When you're feeling particularly rich. That might never happen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiSox_Sonix Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Made my final payment to the ring I bought a year ago yesterday. Boy that feels good! Now I can go spend that monthly payment on the new car I've been putting off....right after I pay for the wedding band that is Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cabiness42 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Is there a best time of the year to buy engagement rings? Right before you ask her to do "something" that she's never been willing to try before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenksismyhero Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 12:55 AM) When you're feeling particularly rich. Or poor. Then the whole 3 or 4 paycheck rule would be pretty low. 5-6 years away from buying the ring and being engaged, I gotta say the whole ring thing is a lot like the wedding. Is it awesome to spend a lot of money and buy something fancy and have your wives friends be jealous of the size/look of her ring? Yes. But that wears off. And you (and your wife, maybe) will eventually come to realize that that money could have been spent in SO many better ways that would improve your day to day life and marriage; a better house, better appliances/furnishings, etc. The ring and the wedding are great, and it's important to do what makes you both happy. But don't forget about the big picture too. Edited October 3, 2014 by Jenksismybitch Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Just don't feel like you have to spend a certain amount on a ring just because a ring company tells you that is right. Go with what feels right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrangeSox Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 09:54 AM) Just don't feel like you have to spend a certain amount on a ring just because a ring company tells you that is right. Go with what feels right. Yeah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 10:00 AM) Yeah. I bought our engagement ring while I was working in a retail s***hole making $8.25 an hour. The ring cost $650. But the style of ring was perfect. Our wedding bands cost something like $300 total, because we went with plain gold bands, but also comfort fit. Guess what, they still work just fine 14 years later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IlliniKrush Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (Jenksismyb**** @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 09:53 AM) Or poor. Then the whole 3 or 4 paycheck rule would be pretty low. 5-6 years away from buying the ring and being engaged, I gotta say the whole ring thing is a lot like the wedding. Is it awesome to spend a lot of money and buy something fancy and have your wives friends be jealous of the size/look of her ring? Yes. But that wears off. And you (and your wife, maybe) will eventually come to realize that that money could have been spent in SO many better ways that would improve your day to day life and marriage; a better house, better appliances/furnishings, etc. The ring and the wedding are great, and it's important to do what makes you both happy. But don't forget about the big picture too. As long as you spend within your means and don't go overboard I think it's fine. Let's face it Jenks, women by nature are more materialistic and want nice things, and this is probably one of the most important material things they'll ever get. You don't buy the ring to impress other people, IMO you buy it because it's what she wants/deserves/what you want to give.That doesn't mean it has to come with a certain dollar amount attached to it, but you want to get something she'll be proud to wear for the rest of her life. You want it to look good and you want her to feel good about that. You can do that on various budgets. You just don't want to purposely go cheap and try to spin it as "well honey this will help with a better dishwasher 10 years from now!" Sure, it's the thought that counts and what it represents, and if it was me I'd be fine wearing something out of a cracker jack box and buying something else, but it's different for a woman when it's something of this magnitude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockRaines Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 10:20 AM) I bought our engagement ring while I was working in a retail s***hole making $8.25 an hour. The ring cost $650. But the style of ring was perfect. Our wedding bands cost something like $300 total, because we went with plain gold bands, but also comfort fit. Guess what, they still work just fine 14 years later. My wedding band was off of Amazon for under 30 bucks. Her engagement ring on the other hand.....yikes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenksismyhero Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 11:20 AM) As long as you spend within your means and don't go overboard I think it's fine. Let's face it Jenks, women by nature are more materialistic and want nice things, and this is probably one of the most important material things they'll ever get. You don't buy the ring to impress other people, IMO you buy it because it's what she wants/deserves/what you want to give.That doesn't mean it has to come with a certain dollar amount attached to it, but you want to get something she'll be proud to wear for the rest of her life. You want it to look good and you want her to feel good about that. You can do that on various budgets. You just don't want to purposely go cheap and try to spin it as "well honey this will help with a better dishwasher 10 years from now!" Sure, it's the thought that counts and what it represents, and if it was me I'd be fine wearing something out of a cracker jack box and buying something else, but it's different for a woman when it's something of this magnitude. We can all sell it that the ring is for her and not for other people, but 75% or more of the reason a girl wants the big ring is to show it off. If it was all sentimental value, a $100 ring would suffice. But they want the bling. Women are weirdly competitive that way. But I agree, don't sell it like "we can be cheap now so we can buy an appliance later." Buy something nice and be happy with it. I'm just saying don't get crazy. I spent a TON on my wife's ring, and we spent a TON on our wedding (in-laws chipped in a bit, but it was all us). I would gladly take that very, very large sum of money we spent for one day (and a lifetime of memories and all that rah, rah stuff) and put that towards a next level house. A house we live in 24/7/365. I think my wife mostly agrees. And I'm not saying I don't love the ring I got or that I didn't love my wedding day. Best day/night of my life, but when you look at the big picture, it's just a big party that you spend an outrageous amount for. A backyard BBQ with an informal ceremony would have been just as fun and pocket change in comparison. Edited October 3, 2014 by Jenksismybitch Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrangeSox Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 I was lucky in that I had a family stone I could use for free, so I spent more on a nice setting and ended up with a ring that's appraised for 5-6x what I paid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigHurt3515 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) We have been to about 4 or 5 stores and it seems like the setting she likes is around 2,000 everywhere they had one that was similar. I am hoping to check out a lot more places before deciding. She is like in love with that type of setting/ring and the last thing I want to do is upset her if she doesn't get that type. Ring Edited October 3, 2014 by BigHurt3515 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrangeSox Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Try looking at independent stores, not just the ones in the mall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigHurt3515 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 12:54 PM) Try looking at independent stores, not just the ones in the mall. Yeah we went to 3 in our smaller town. Hopefully when I get back to St. Louis I get a chance to check out a bunch of stores there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southsider2k5 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 12:54 PM) Try looking at independent stores, not just the ones in the mall. Seriously hit up Jewelers Row along Wabash downtown. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDF Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (BigHurt3515 @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 05:53 PM) We have been to about 4 or 5 stores and it seems like the setting she likes is around 2,000 everywhere they had one that was similar. I am hoping to check out a lot more places before deciding. She is like in love with that type of setting/ring and the last thing I want to do is upset her if she doesn't get that type. Ring I like to go the diamond row which is downtown on dearborn (sp) and walker. you can get great rings and you can haggle with them. I may be wrong on the location. I have been gone from chi for close to 20 yrs. for me, I would rather go small on the engagement ring and spend on the wedding bands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigHurt3515 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 QUOTE (LDF @ Oct 3, 2014 -> 01:21 PM) I like to go the diamond row which is downtown on dearborn (sp) and walker. you can get great rings and you can haggle with them. I may be wrong on the location. I have been gone from chi for close to 20 yrs. for me, I would rather go small on the engagement ring and spend on the wedding bands. I live in Missouri so Chicago places aren't going to work lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cabiness42 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 I live in Missouri so Chicago places aren't going to work lol. I hear last month people were getting really good deals on jewelry in Ferguson. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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